Friday, April 30, 2010

Balance

Do you have it?

I'm trying to find it again but somehow I don't think I'm doing a very good job.

I stopped at my sister's house the other night to beg for some lasagna leftovers that I knew were in her refrigerator. She gladly gave me some. She has three little girls, and is expecting her first boy in a few weeks. She and her husband have been remodeling their home since they moved in, she works part time for the family business, and she has a church calling that keeps her incredibly busy. As I was sitting with her at the kitchen table I asked, "How do you do it all?" She sighed and asked, "Have you seen my house? I don't do it all. I can't."

As I left her house I thought 'you have a lot less on your plate than she does...you should be able to do more.'

In the last four months I bought a house, planned a wedding, got married, and started the busiest season at work. And now when I'm faced with the daily act of living I get a tad overwhelmed:

-Laundry
-Cleaning the house
-Work that I never get caught up on
-Friends that I neglect
-A husband that I try REALLY HARD not to neglect
-Finding the time and the energy to exercise

The list could go on...but I'll spare you... because heaven knows you all have your own lists...much longer than my own.

THANKFULLY I have a husband who shares in the daily act of living...you should see how clean our shower is this morning!

Last night my sister, my twin sister, called me and said, "I would like to schedule a date with you." And we agreed to figure out a time when we could actually see each other.

When Jason left at 8:30 last night to work, I left too...to visit some friends that I haven't spent time with since before Christmas. They know how crazy my life is, and they love me anyway. The evidence of that love is in my fridge: they made me homemade salsa and guacamole.

When Jason and I met up again at 11:15 last night, it was to say "Hi, and goodnight." Because we were both exhausted and couldn't keep our eyes open.

I'm wondering if I'll ever find balance. Do you have balance? Really...do you?

And finally, speaking of balance, I read an article yesterday about a woman who seems to have found perfect balance:

She and her pet rabbit who stands 4 feet 3 inches tall travel the country showing themselves off. She spent over $16,000.00 on plastic surgery to look like Jessica Rabbit from the Roger Rabbit movie. I need a pet rabbit...maybe that will give me balance.

19 comments:

Dominguez Family said...

If you had balance life would be boring. As for your sister with the many children, whatever her name might be. My mom once told me that I'm raising children, not a home and to stop worrying about my house so much.

Cheeseboy said...

This blogging thing is throwing my balance off. That bunny rabbit sounds incredible.

ashley said...

i loved this insightful post, women try to do it all-- sometimes we need to prioritize and focus on what matters
LOVE the blog, I can't wait to read more-- found you on follow friday!
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~ashley

Joann Mannix said...

I think as woman, balance is something we pursue our entire lives. For me, I go through stages. For the past 2 weeks, coming off of vacation, I felt like I was running to catch up and the bus was always speeding away. But, finally, finally today, I'm feeling better about things. That doesn't mean by this weekend, I'll feel pulled apart again, but for this second, I am at peace with my balance.

It's all in the priorities. Like, for instance, my car is my last priority. It has to get ungodly for me to clean it. Do you know how many other things in my life need cleaning ahead of the car? All I can say is, breathe.

cfoxes33 said...

Balance? LOL. Living unbalanced is much more interesting. My husband and kids pick up a lot of the household chores. Like today...he did the shower too!

Ya done good, girl!

jsimplylive said...

I read someone's comment about and it is true. Blogging sometimes throws my balance off :) I really like it and sometimes spend too much time doing it. Same goes for work. It took me a long time to find my balance but I think I am getting better at it :) Have a great Friday!

Feeling Just Right said...

That HUGE bunny rabbit is NOT a pet. It is scary. Really. Ugh. And the lady needs treatment. ASAP.

You, my friend, stop worrying. Nobody can live your life the way you do because (don't have pessimistic thoughts running through your head as you read this!) you are unique. Each of us is, which is the best part.

p.s. the whole world loves you for being you.

p.p.s. i've grown up feeling sad that i wasn't my big sister's twin. Aah! Sigh.

Anonymous said...

To: Noelle
From: Your Guardian Angel
RE: The Office of Terrestrial Weights, Measures and Departures with world wide prayer phone coverage

Dear [insert passenger's name here]

We suggest getting rid of some of the baggage you've picked up since launch. It will make your return flight much more rewarding, and we can avoid rearranging everyone elses luggage in order to comply with flight balancing guidelines. As a rule, our office never allows more than a single piece of luggage per passenger on their maiden voyage. We don't do anything but maiden voyages.

Did you slip through check-in or did you pay the extra fee for all of those pieces?

The instructions at departure were clear. All you get is agency, unless otherwise usurped by people evil people masquerading as your friends.

No carry-ons. No bags heavier than your navel. No bags larger than the granite box the Salt Lake temple came in. Sinfully red bags are highly discouraged. White bags are given special treatment. All bags must have three optional compartments. Suit bags may be used for two years (men) or 18 months (women). No swim bags. We don't do plastic bags, only the real, honest-to-gosh, true bags. Urim and thummims must be checked upon departure, but you're allowed one phone call not less than twice daily. Keep your cell phone in its upright position at all times. Despite our sincere concern for your safety, we do not provide seat belts. We refer all lawsuit to the Man to whom you can present your greivance. If you should encounter turbulance which results catastrophic failure, follow the red lights which lead to blue lights which leads to some serious peace and quiet.

Well done,

Guess who?

Christina said...

Its hard. Really hard, but you'll find it. Just don't be to hard on yourself in the beginning....it will all fall into place if you let it. :)
xoxo

PS-Josh comes home in less than 60 days. For at least a year, he'll be in the states! :)

Mr. Thompson and Me said...

Do. Not. Get. A. Pet.

This comes from the person who left the dog in the 3x3 Kennel for 13 stright hours this week....because hubby is out of town and reverted to my workaholic ways.

I forgot the dog.

And on my way to work early this morning I realized that I would probably be one of those people who forget their child in the car.

It made me cry.

Loralee and the gang... said...

ARE we supposed to find balance in our lives? REally? When you figure out how, send me some tips! lol!

Bossy Betty said...

Balance--oh if I could achieve that..... Still, food in the fridge from friends? You are doing something right!!

ashley said...

yes I am! small world, I will tell katie & maren ;)

adrienzgirl said...

I saw that crazy Jessica Rabbit lady on The Today Show this week. She so doesn't do her justice!

But balance? I have five children now ranging in ages from 18 to 3 months. 2 of my boys are ADHD, we have 3 gifted children. I would honestly say that balance is an illusion. A figment of someone's imagination. The stuff of fairy tales! :D

But, if I had everything in order I don't think life would be very interesting.

jayayceeblog said...

That rabbit thing is just plain creepy!

There really is no such thing as balance. If you can lay your head on your pillow at night knowing you had a full day, did what you could, are happy in your life, have love in your life, do things you find interesting, etc., etc., nobody cares if your floor is vacuumed or the laundry is put away. My goal today is to live in the moment and try to enjoy each one as it passes. And if I can't enjoy it, at least acknowledge it and move on!

Venassa said...

I do not. 4 days later I'm still trying to unpack stuff from my trip home. Sometimes it's an accomplishment just to work, shower and have a normal meal all in one day.

Amy said...

Nobody has it. If they say they do they're lying which is clearly not something a balanced person does.

Also if you find it, don't tell the rest of us cuz we'll just be mad/jealous/inadequate. :D

Your VERY wise friend,
Amy

Tiffany said...

I think sometimes we look at balance in the right now, rather than the long run. I try to remember that there are seasons in my life and that some things will have to wait. (It also helps that I'm not a type A gal)

Keep smiling and laughing Noelle- then it won't bother you so much if you're not 100% balanced :)

p.s. Big hug for Mr. Thompson and me.

Feeling Just Right said...

Noelle, sweetheart! You've got to be joking! Your wedding had all the cute looking-into-each-other's-eyes-like-nobody-else-exists poses! You had such special bride-under-the-umbrella pictures, which looked mighty cute!

I'll tell you what? If i were to EVER EVER have a wedding- i'd prefer a very simple temple marriage with just immediate family and crazily close friends. This drama was a bit TOO TOO TOO MUCH for me. I LOVED your wedding.

I think it's just a mad case of the grass being greener on the other side!

p.s. i REPEAT- i absolutely loved your wedding pictures.

p.p.s. please DO NOT compare your wedding to this one. I am not very fond of this bride, but i totally love the other one!

(I'm posting here because i want to make sure to read my reply to your comment)